Family Support

Background

Chinwe, a 35-year-old cybersecurity professional in Lagos, Nigeria, was still single and under constant pressure from her family to “settle down.” What her family didn’t know was that no one was even asking her out. Each family gathering was a reminder of her “delay,” and she secretly battled feelings of rejection and self-doubt.

Problem

She feared being left behind. At her age, she thought marriage might no longer be possible, and the silence from men deepened her frustration. She wanted companionship and a partner who aligned with her values, but she didn’t know how and where to meet such men.

Obstacles

Her biggest challenge was invisibility. While she was doing well in her career, she felt overlooked in her personal life. Friends told her to “just put herself out there,” but nothing changed. She also feared that desperation might push her into choosing wrongly.

Solution

Through the Speed Marriage Program, Chinwe went through self-discovery exercises that shifted her perspective. She learned how to attract the right man, identify blind spots, discover her strengths, and become intentional about what she wanted in a spouse. The program also helped her reframe her definition of marriage.

Outcome

Chinwe’s confidence grew, and she stopped carrying shame about her singleness. Within a year, she attracted and began a relationship with a man whose values and life goals matched hers. For the first time in years, she felt seen, wanted, and secure about her future.

Background

Joseph, a 34-year-old entrepreneur from Dar es Salaam, had built a successful business but struggled in his relationships. He was ready to marry but feared repeating the mistakes of his older brother, whose marriage ended in divorce.

Problem

Joseph admitted he often chose partners based on physical attraction and quick emotions. While the relationships started well, they quickly fell apart because of mismatched values and priorities. He worried about investing his life into the wrong marriage.

Obstacles

Cultural pressure was intense. His relatives insisted he marry quickly to “secure his legacy.” Meanwhile, Joseph felt stuck between what his family wanted and what he truly needed for his destiny and peace of mind.

Solution

In the *Speed Marriage Program*, Joseph learned how to step back from emotions and evaluate marriage as a destiny partnership. He was guided through frameworks that compared character, long-term vision, and emotional intelligence. He also answered deep questions about what he truly needed in a wife.

Outcome

Within a year, Joseph proposed to a woman he says is “the partner I prayed for but didn’t know how to find.” Their relationship is marked by shared values, mutual respect, and peace of mind. He now says, “I didn’t just choose a wife; I chose my future.

Background

The Okafor family, a couple in their late 30s, recently relocated from Lagos to London with their two children, ages 8 and 11. Both parents were juggling new jobs while trying to adapt to a completely different culture.

Problem

Their children struggled to adjust to school routines and cultural differences. The parents felt they were losing authority and influence because traditional Nigerian parenting methods didn’t always translate well in the UK.

Obstacles

They had no local support system and were unsure how to balance discipline with fostering independence in their children. Conflicting advice from family back home and the new environment created confusion and stress.

Solution

Through the EFFECTIVE PARENTING SYSTEMS FOR IMMIGRANTS Program, they learned a step-by-step template for raising children in the Diaspora. This included setting clear boundaries, understanding cultural adaptation challenges, and designing daily routines that instilled values while allowing for healthy independence.

Outcome

Within three months, the Okafor children adjusted well to school and social life. The parents reported improved communication and cooperation at home. The family now follows a consistent parenting routine that strengthens bonds while supporting the children’s growth in a new cultural environment.

Background

Grace, a 36-year-old single mother in Texas, had a 15-year-old daughter, Tinuke, who had begun staying out late and showing signs of self-sabotaging behavior. Grace wanted to help her daughter before things escalated further.

Problem

Tinuke frequently skipped school assignments, ignored boundaries, and showed signs of peer pressure influence. Grace was worried about addiction or involvement in negative behaviours. Her previous attempts to control the situation with strict rules only led to secretive behaviour.

Obstacles

Grace lacked a clear strategy and felt emotionally drained. She didn’t know how to balance discipline with care, and the community advice she received was conflicting. She feared that too much confrontation would push her daughter further away.

Solution

Through the Handling an Erring Child course, Grace learned the 7-step system to address root causes, create interventions, and monitor progress without escalating conflict. She learned techniques to restore communication, set healthy boundaries, and reinforce positive behaviour while knowing when professional support was necessary.

Outcome

Within five months, Tinuke’s risky behaviours decreased, her school performance improved, and she began opening up to her mother more. Grace regained peace in her home and now feels empowered to guide her daughter confidently while fostering trust and accountability.