How To Protect Your Child From Abuse

Holiday season is here and while you’re sorting out travel, sleepovers, and who the kids will stay with, remember that safety is not automatic because someone is ‘family.’

The holidays can be overwhelming. Between work, traffic, events, and no school to help share the load, it’s tempting to send the kids to spend time with an ‘aunty,’ ‘uncle,’ or even ‘family friend.’

But before you pack that overnight bag or wave goodbye from the car, pause. Your child’s safety is still your responsibility even in your absence.

Here are a few things to keep in mind before you drop them off:

1. ‘Uncle’ Is Not a Safety Badge

Here in Naija, almost every man older than your child is called ‘uncle.’ But that doesn’t mean he’s safe.

Sometimes, it’s the familiar faces we least suspect that children need the most protection from.

2. Talk to Your Children in Plain Language

Start where they are. Teach them what’s private and what’s not okay.

Use real names for body parts - penis, vagina, bum.

Let them know:

‘No one should touch you there even if they say it’s a game. Even if they promise you sweets, toys, or threaten you.’

3. Role-Play What to Say and Do

It’s not enough to say, ‘If anyone touches you, tell me.’

Act it out. Teach your child to say:

‘Stop it.’

‘I don’t like that.’

‘I will tell my mummy.’

Let these words roll off their tongue like ‘Please’ and ‘Thank you.’

4. If Your Child Says No, Listen

If they suddenly don’t want to go to that house or hug a certain uncle, don’t dismiss it.

Look closer. Ask questions. Trust your gut.

Children often show discomfort with their body language first.

5. You Don’t Owe Anyone Blind Trust

You are not ‘paranoid’ for asking questions.

You are not ‘disrespecting’ your cousin, pastor, or neighbour by saying, ‘My child won’t be staying over.’

You are simply parenting and parenting well.

If you need help having these conversations with your child, keep reading.

We understand that sex education can feel awkward especially with younger kids but you don’t have to figure it out alone.

We’ve created age-appropriate sexuality education kits designed for families.

Simple, practical, and child-friendly kits to help you teach your children about body safety, boundaries, and self-respect.

To access them, click on the link below that relates to your child.

For children ages 2 - 3

For children ages 4 – 6

For children ages 7 – 9

For children ages 10 – 12

For children ages 13 – 15

Protect your children not just with prayers, but with clear conversations and wise choices.