It was going to be a torturous day for both of us. After 24 years and six months, we had decided that we were not compatible with each other. What went wrong between us? We were the ideal couple in the eyes of our family, friends and kids. We understood each other perfectly well. She could read my soul better than she could read her own. I could read her thoughts and desires better than I knew mine. But then where did we go wrong or what was missing between us?
It was that dreadful day when I came home to my wife who seemed a stranger to me. She was sitting quietly with her head bent down. The thundering sound outside the house broke this biting silence between us momentarily.
“What happened, honey? ”, I asked.
She didn’t respond. She was searching for words to make herself clear to me.
“Is something wrong? What happened, darling? Tell me, we will sort it out.”, I said, offering her a glass of water and then sitting down on my knees with my hands placed on her lap.
She sipped the water and took deep breaths. “I need a divorce, Kevin.”, she said at last.
Her words struck my heart like a thunderbolt. I couldn’t believe my eyes. “This must be a nightmare.”, I wondered, blinking my eyes repeatedly. I still didn’t believe this was happening to me. “ Why? This is a joke.”, I said, getting up on my feet.
“Everything is a joke to you. I am serious. I am tired of this marriage. I am tired of being your wife. We are no longer compatible with each other. Our needs and wants have become different.”, she argued.
“Oh! I see. After twenty-four years, you think that we are no longer compatible. What about those years we were together? What about those memories we shared together? Doesn’t that matter to you? Those years of love, patience, loyalty, romance, family and status is not enough for you? “, I asked heartbrokenly.
She didn’t respond. She tapped the tips of her finger nervously on her lap. She didn’t have the courage to look into my eyes. She was still staring at the floor, looking for the answer. “ Tell me, how can I get you back? I can’t live without you.”, I pleaded.
She couldn’t control her emotions. She got up from the seat. “There is nothing you can do to get me back. It is too late.”, she said in a choked voice. The tears in her eyes welled up. She controlled them. She didn’t want to weep in front of me. As usual, she wanted to cover them as she used to for twenty four years.
“So you have found another man in your life. Tell me, who is he?”, I growled at her. I was furious at her blunt response. How could someone break a relationship without any reason after years of togetherness? I couldn’t digest this thought inside me.
You would agree with me that this woman didn’t wake up one day to end it with the guy. The relationship ended long before she spoke up.
He didn’t see it coming because he assumed that everything was going well.
This is why every marriage or relationship needs to go through marital checkups every year. If you haven’t gone through any, you’re in danger.
We’ve all seen athletes check their pulses. Joggers sometimes wear heart-rate monitors around their chests. Cyclers might put two fingers to their necks. If you’re like me, you might not see the need for all this pulse checking. I mean I can feel my heart beating right? If it’s beating, then I’m doing good.
But these athletes are onto something important. Monitoring their pulse not only helps them increase their fitness level, but can also identify serious problems.
Every couple needs to do regular “pulse checks” to check their marriage health, as well. Couples need to monitor their relational fitness to catch problems they might otherwise miss.
If Kevin and his partner had gone through a check-up a year before this disaster, he wouldn’t have experienced this heartbreak because he would have known that something was wrong and it would have been fixed.
There’s a flip side to this.
People change, and when they do, we tend to think that our relationship is breaking apart when in fact it’s not.
So how do you know for sure where you stand in your relationship?
This is where a marital check-up comes in, and that’s what we’re offering you today at the rate of N50,000.
Couples don’t usually break up over the big stuff, but it’s “the small, daily incivilities — the apologies unspoken, the kisses that go unkissed, the meals that pass in silence, the money that is wasted — [that] lay the groundwork for the big things to erupt.”
Clearly, a relational pulse check is critical for good marriage health. But instead of using a heart-rate monitor, you can check your marriage by taking our assessments [Link].
When you take our assessments, you will be exposed to who you are, who your partner is and the state of your relationship.
Let’s go back to the story
“For Christ sake, stop it! I have never loved anyone so deeply as I loved you. There is no man in my life. Why can’t you see I am tired of love? Anyway, I will send you legal documents tomorrow.”, she cried.
The next day was a mess. I received legal documents from her. It stated the divorce and what she needed as an alimony settlement. It also mentioned about the custody of our children would solely remain with her and that I would have the rights to meet them whenever I wanted. What? Custody and separation seemed like alien words to me. I looked for the reasons for separation.
They weren’t specific or real. It was only mentioned that separation was due to irreconcilable differences. We could have those differences sorted if she would mention to me what were those differences.
Sorry Kevin, she already made up her mind. And there’s nothing that can change it
If Kevin had been told to take these assessments, he would have declined because he thought everything was going well.
When it comes to human relations, it’s dangerous to make assumptions.
Now is your chance to do what Kevin didn’t have the opportunity to do - prevention. The good thing about preventions is that they’re way cheaper than cures.
Way cheaper
You don’t believe me? Let me break it down for you.
Divorce
You will pay your ex-spouse monthly and the price would be determined by them. Trust me, you will not like the amount they will name especially if they don’t work.
Oh, their new partners will also enjoy the money with them. Your hard-earned money
In the case of kids, you will no longer enjoy them because custody would be shared. In the case where you don’t get custody, you would have to wait till they can come to you of their own volition.
Can you imagine the psychological stress the children would go through? It’s not a pleasant image, believe me.
I can go on painting more gory details, but I refuse to be toxic.
Counselling
Let’s say your partner agrees to be counselled. How much do you think counsellors charge per session?
The price varies from counsellor to counsellor, but I will say this - you won’t spend less than N200,000/session.
Unless of course, they’re amateurs.
Based on these things I’ve laid down, I want to give you two options:
Will you seize the opportunity or will you take your chances?
When you make your purchase of N50,000, you will get the following assessments:
The couples that took these assessments had these to say:
These assessments will ensure that you never become a Kevin who suddenly hears ‘I’m no longer interested’.
P.S. Divorces can be prevented if the signs are caught early. Today, we offer you a chance to catch the signs so that you don’t become a divorce statistic.
Click on any of the red buttons above to get the assessments and be on your way to marital bliss.
